Hey guys, new here. So my story is super long and complicated but I'll give you the bare bones of it and can add more info with more interaction.
I have two daughters 10 and 7. Basically I have been struggling with the 7 year olds behaviour and violence since she was 3.5 years old. Health professionals are saying it's possibly adhd but latley I suspect that she has phsycotic traits either aswel or instead of.
Their mother left the family home very abruptly March 2020 and until recently has had no contact whatsoever with them, this caused my 7 year old to also have abandonment issues.
Her violence and behaviour latley got quite extreme to the point where she completely trashed my house, urinated and soiled on the floor and tried to attack me with sticks, aerosol cans, glass, throwing tins at me etc.
By coincidence at the same time her mother was attempting to make contact with them, my 10 year old wants nothing to do with her.
Eventually I decided to arrange contact between my 7 year old and mum in a attempt to calm her behaviours down, during this time children's services were also involved by my request as I was really struggling to manage her behaviour.
It was suggested by me and agreed that she would live with mum from October and I have contact. But immediately after her moving in I have been denied any form of contact and she is stating that my daughter wants nothing to do with me. I believe that she is attempting to alienate her from me and her sister out of spite and to compensate for her abandoning her.
So my current situation is my 10 year old lives with me and wants no contact with either her mum or sister and my 7 year old lives with her mum and boyfriend but I want contact with her.
I believe their mum to be a toxic person with narssasistic traits and I believe my daughter is ultimately alot like her mother, I love my daughter but she just is.
I have issued court proceedings and have had a initial hearing but am worried that the courts will decide that I am not capable of looking after her.
I feel so down, I just want to be able to hold my little girl again.
Hi,
Must be very tough for you. When is the next court hearing, and will cafcass be doing a welfare report?
@bill337 yes it is extremely tough. Additionally to this I was in a different relationship but she left due to my daughters behaviours in September so I have lost my daughter and ex girlfriend. Cafcass carried out a report, it was a abusive relationship from her side towards both myself and the children and now she is alleging I have done certain things. Next hearing is at the end of the month but it's only a directions hearing.