How can a parent continue to believe in a teenager, love them unconditionally and try to build self-esteem when their behaviour is intolerable?
I'm assuming you mean SOME kids - TheOrb???? 😆
Yes, yes, yes!!
We are human BEINGs not human DOINGS! Unconditional love is not weakness, and issues challenge and sets boundaries. But ulitmately everyone (ESP teens) crave being accepted for just who they are not what they DO.
During our teens we search for identity, what better time to know the unconditional live of a father.
I heard a saying "I do, therefore I am" I fundamentally disagree!
"I AM, THEREFORE I DO"
love them and praise them for who they are, just as they are.
Nice sentiments in your reply Buzz,your right in unconditional love being important as you will always love your child. The reality though I feel is sometimes teenagers really push your buttons with there actions-yes you still love them,but it doesn't stop them frustrating the [censored] out of you.
Hi jimjansdad
How old are your teens? In my experience its best to try to hang in there with teenagers. They may press your buttons but they still need safe, secure boundaries. Praise the positives, don't overdo it though because they know when you are being genuine. It's not them you object to, just the behaviour so try to keep that in mind. I've been told it does and will get better as they get older, although it doesn't seem so when you're in the middle of it!
Jamie
Hey Jamie,
I've got a 14yr old step-son along with my 2yr old. Don't get me wrong no ones giving up or anything,it's just the thread starter is clearly experiencing difficulties with teen attitude and I just think sometimes it's hard when all you get is attitude.
My step-son is a good lad but sometimes he can be an absolute nightmare,I guess it's all part of growing up,I was probally just the same at his age,I sometimes feel though that the youth of today show little respect sometimes,we will pull him up sometimes and the next day he's at it again.
Kids eh.... 😀