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[Solved] Ex partner not sharing information of my son

 
(@mattincognito)
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My son (age 5) told me he's scared sleeping in his room and he now sleeps downstairs with his mum.
He told me he was scared of noises.

I asked my ex via text what she thought the issue could be and if there is anything i can help with to make him feel more secure.

She refuses to discuss it with me and keeps copying and pasting the same message when I asked.
She is now calling me a bully for asking multiple times.

I have asked my solicitor and they advised that they should write a letter to her.
It's playing on my mind of why he is scared, do you think I should get the solicitor involved?

Also I have now had a few occurrences where my ex will not discuss things with me and copies and pastes the same "refusal" message over and over, the last time was when i was trying to arrange a holiday for me and my son. She has called me a bully and "twister of words". From my point of view I can't understand where she is coming from and it's hard to stay calm.

Has anyone had this sort of communication problem and got any advice?

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Topic starter Posted : 04/01/2018 6:53 pm
 Mojo
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Hi there

Please be very careful, she could quite easily have a injunction slapped on you for harassment, a solicitors letter would probably be the safer bet, but it's likely to antagonise her!

If you are having problems with regular contact and planning for holidays, your first step would be to attempt mediation to try and get some form of agreement in place, mediation is a requirement before an application to court for a Child Arrangements Order can be made. When there's no reasoning with the other parent, it's sometimes better to get a court order in place to save arguement.

All the best

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Posted : 06/01/2018 2:53 am
(@mattincognito)
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Thanks for your reply.

Interestingly she has previously said in a message for me to stop "harassing" her, therefore I think you're right a solicitor is the best way to go.

Thanks again for the advice.

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Topic starter Posted : 08/01/2018 2:14 pm
 Mojo
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.. If that's not a word she would usually use it sounds like she may have taken some advice on the subject. Proceed with caution!

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Posted : 08/01/2018 4:12 pm
 Yoda
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I agree with Mojo - be VERY cautious.

Have the solicitor deal with it, and if it's becoming impossible, then perhaps as Mojo says, get started on mediation and be prepared to end up in court if necessary.

Harassment is a very convenient cloak for parents who don't want to be reasonable to hide behind.

Best of luck

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Posted : 08/01/2018 8:34 pm
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