Cancelling a meeting could of been on the simple reason your ex wasn't bothering to attend. If your ex isn't going to attend then whats the point of having one. Bit odd social worker is changing as well . social services can be a handful if you don't see eye to eye with them
unfortunately she has been assigned to another team and would like the new case worker to conduct the next meeting. She fine a great job and completed the single assessment in some what my favour outlining mother is sporadic and that the children are happy in my care . I am attending court next week for the second hearing regarding molestation and occupation order. I was thinking should I submit the C100 application? I haven’t herd anything from her side since 3 December regarding that .
No need to submit anything. Why would you at this stage. Children are in your care so let her make the court applications. meantime children stay with you and time goes on
if I don’t put an application in , would that go against me ! Would the judge question as the children are my care and why I haven’t done so to date . ?
No , not at all . Why would you feel the need to put an application in . Your children live with you at the moment . Your ex is the one that wishes to see them and to get the ball rolling she will need to take you to court. The longer it goes on the more you and your children will likely have a ruling go in your favour.
If ex has put an application in , it may take 5-6 weeks before you have your 1st court appearance .. at 1st court appearance unlikely any contact will be sorted so next hearing wouldn't be for another 3 months .
By putting a c100 in yourself you are helping your ex by speeding the process up. she may not have even applied to family court . how is she going to afford it without legal aid and any representation. All your children are old enough including youngest to have their own views and wishes what they would like to happen. unless 4 children want to live with their mum and not yourself , an occupation order will fail miserably if children are happy in your care
Unfortunately she is abusing the system and is getting legal aid , as she resides in a refuge for the past 6 months . She had mentioned on her statement that she must vacate in February. I don’t know the procedure with regards to housing. She left on her own will saying she didn’t want me and the kids ! She may have realised withOut the children she will not get what she wants and now wants to come back in for her financial and housing gain.!!
Many thanks for your advice and support
lol. even those that run off with kids to claim council flat and benefits, its not so easy nowadays. snitching is an art form.
You don't have to vacate a refuge at all. woman stay there normally until they get housed somewhere else. she clearly has not put any thought into her actions and probably would happily move back into your house.
As others have mentioned, do not let her move in. My ex tried to get me to stay in a hotel for a couple of nights a week prior to our separation, I refused as I was fully aware that she would then have prevented me from getting back into the house.
Once it appears the relationship has ended - do not trust. Your ex has probably obtained legal advice and solicitors will play dirty and threaten with occupational orders etc. You live in the family home and have the kids staying with you, do not compromise your strong position.
I intend to remain there , she tried to worm her way back in the house in September, but I refused later I found out she was trying to secure her residence. I have decided not to proceed with the child arrangement thanks to everyone’s advice. I will be attending court next Friday for the occupation and molestation order , second hearing . The first hearing judge refused to grant molestation order without factual evidence. She asked for the order against all of my siblings including my disabled brother. In December she withdrew 4 siblings remaining myself and my sister. She contacted me via text in December asking me to drop off the boys to her sisters house where she was staying for a short while , the boys refused as they were upset as she hasn’t made any attempt to see them since October. She is asking for a molestation order yet she is inviting me to bring the kids over , I have mentioned this in my statement and submitted proof of the conversation. I hope all goes well next week .
I thank everyone for there support and information at this hard time .
Many thanks guys