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I know Im more fortuanate than most as I am given telephone contact every evening by the court however my ex keeps preventing this as often as possible.
Its happened teice this week now.
Do I just log it and inform the court and SS at my impending section 7 visit or should I consider more solicitors letters or a visit to court?
We are back in court early September and I have 2 weeks away with our children from Monday.
Im thinking I just put up with it as I have our children for 2 weeks and the court soon but I wish it to be known that she prevents contat at every opportunity.
Im thinking log it and present to SS and the court, What do you think?
Im probably just trying to get this off my chest as Im frustrated....again.
Regards,
Dave
Hi Dave,,
It's good to get it off your chest!
As you are having your children for two weeks very soon then I would just suck it up for now, but make a note of it. If when you get back and she continues to do it then make a point of reporting it as a breach of the court order.
Alternatively you could ask your solicitor to write to her while you are away with the kids and bring to her attention the fact that she is in breach of what the court has ordered and if it happens again after the children are back with her you will report the breach to the court.
Hi Dave
I keep every e-mail I receive or send to my ex and I also keep every text.
My daughter is away for 2 weeks now with her mum (back in 8 days) and my ex has told me she will not be texting to let me know how my daughter is. Obviously I'm upset and missing my daughter like mad but rather than respond and cause further animosity in the relationship I just make a note. I hope the more negativity I can get on my ex will help my case if we end up in court.
I have kept a diary for the last 2 years detailing where I pick my daughter up from and where I drop her off, how long I have her and who we have seen and where we have been. I take photos for memories but hopefully if needed they will also show how close we are.
I keep all the times and dates my ex sends me for contact I can have with my daughter, mark them off as to indicate if the times where kept and make a note of where we went, usually once a week I then put all the information onto my computer and keep it logged. I also write down every conversation I have with my ex in this log when it involves contact, I know it is obviously my feelings and version of events but it may help.
I have not updated my diary though this last week as I have been sad missing my daughter but I will have to do it soon before I forget anything.
Good luck I know your pain.
Great news you have your children for 2 weeks bye the way.......... That's another thing I'm battling for, the entitlement what she takes for granted a lovely 2 week summer holiday with my princess.
I agree too with what you have been told DaveR, keeping notes/diary of events....keeping everything, there MAY be genuine reasons for the change, but if you keep a diary and a pattern begins to form, I,.e. your contact is frequently cancelled before you take the children on holiday, that is something that can be shown to the Court..as NJ says..."suck it up for now" 😆
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