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hi,sorry to ask but we are at a complete loss as to what to do.my partner has not seen his children in over a year.cafcass were completely hoodwinked to his ex and also did not read all relevant evidence that my partner provided.we have only recently submitted a formal complaint against cafcass as the contradictions throughout were blatant and ridiculous.as a result of the cafcass report (and the childrens statements) he was subsequently given an indirect contact order.we have currently spoken with a professional that looks at parental alienation and after looking at the evidence has no doubt that this was the case with partners ex. going from begging to live with partner his daughter refused to speak to him and wished nothing more to do with him…in the space of a week or so!his son followed suit a month or so later..anyway i could tell you endless stories and situations but i will get to the latest point.the ex wrote to partner asking for permission for 2 things. i was to take them on holiday to spain and 2, was to change their school. Partner responded that the cafcass report from the previous year, which was subsequently approved by the court,stated that the children should not be moved at this present time due to the upheaval they have endured over the past few years (court issues and moving house 17 times)but stated that if cafcass were satisfied that was in the best interest of his children then he would happily support such decision but until he heard from cafcass then their recommendations should remain. Recommendations were based on their emotional needs due to the lack of stability and emotional upheaval the kids have endured.she has since moved yet again recently. in the letter she states her wishes for them moving are financial.my partner responded that the previous year she had asked for a taxi allowance and was offered alternatives,namely family members,being available to help with transportation (ALL paternal family members have been cut off from the children also may I add). partner reiterated that this option was still available.she had written asking for permission one week before the children were due to go back to school.we responded immediately but the time limit was short given the time frame she asked.now it transpires that the boy had written on his facebook on 20/07 that he was moving schools which is obviously long before she even asked permission! If the son had sounded happy about moving schools on his facebook then this may have been a different matter but it is clearly not what he wants. patrner does have parental responsibility and she clearly knew she needed his permission or she wouldn’t have written asking for it! Or does it stand that she gets to make final decisions?We have contacted the new school and informed them that permission was not in fact given,2 days later still no response from them!also rang county hall who said that it was a legal matter and we should take it back to court so that it is the courts wishes….but that was done last year! So what to do next?do we go through the process and take it back to court (by which time the children would have settled in their new school and would cause them upheaval yet again!) or can we enforce the school to refuse admission based on the grounds that both parents should have been consulted. Or is there another way?this woman has done what she wants,when she wants,how she wants and if she wants for so many years (once even accusing my partner of sexual abuse!) and frankly enough is enough. I myself am a mother of 4 and I am shocked and disgusted at her behaviour and its time to fight back.hope you can help,many thanks in advance x
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