[Solved] Just got back from non-molestation hearing...
by the way I realised the therapy my ex is getting my son to go through seems to be via CAMHS. don't know if anyone has heard of them? seems to be that any parent can refer their children to go on there. I cant think of any reason why she would refer our son to this apart from making her case stronger. I have video footage of my son on the day he went all ok, asking about me, obviously not knowing he wont see me for this long and certainly not really knowing what's going on. Heart breaking she would use our children to do this, ive always been a fully hands on father. i suppose i will have to see what her reports from CAMHS brings.
Its unlikely anything will arise from the reports other than the usual obvious stuff thats in them. Judge does act on err of caution though until he has seen report now . This is a delay tactic from your ex to frustrate and prolong u not seeing son. Once he reads report you probably start off with supervised contact as not seen son for a year unless your ex has an unlikely change of heart at next hearing
CAMHS is Children and young people's mental health services run by NHS. It's my understanding that you can only get seen by CAMHS via referral from a GP, school or Children's Services.
It would seem like your ex is grasping it straws bringing this up so late in the proceedings.
Hopefully, the judge will be able to make balanced decisions once the proceedings continue. It does sound like they have a grasp on it already.
@yoda @warwickshire1 thanks for your comments, appreciate it. I have no doubt that my ex is and will be coaching my son. this is my biggest fear, that she makes him say things which is not true, specially as i have had no contact with him for over a year. so i suppose im worried about the report that will come from CAMHS. and also CAFCAS i think will do a section 7 report too, so not sure what will come of that specially if she coaches him. everyday has become a massive struggle.
try not to worry. When I was going through courts, I saw part about CAMHS being mentioned, trying to imply that I have somehow caused children to suffer mentally. nothing came of it. I have had 2 section 7 reports done so far. They will interview you at some point. And also talk to your children. So if they are being coached, Cafcass will see and hear for themselves. I would recommend you go onto cafcass site and complete their parenting plan. will show that your child-focused and serious about co-parenting. mention it in your interview. For interview, keep it child-focused and avoid targeting your ex. be clear about what kind of child arrangements your seeking. I gave Cafcass my position statement, to help them know what I was asking for.
@bill337 Thanks for your reply. Im hoping CAFCASS will be able to help as I'm certain my son is getting coached by my ex and her family so I hope they can notice it in his answers. The difficult thing it I haven't seen my children in over a year and im sure they are getting coached throughout. The court has given my ex to get a report from CAMHS, school and GP to show what difficulty or therapy his had. Again like i said above she only pulled this out on the 11th hour. I will look at the parenting Plan, so thanks for that. I have set out my plan to courts already in regards to shared custody, but she's definitely making it harder.
I've have appreciated everyone's help on here, so thanks. any comments and help welcomed.
Don't worry mate I am in exactly the same position as you. Nearly 1 year down the line with all the same false allegations, police, etc involved. Non-mol, occupation order, going through a divorce, finances and still awaiting an actual date nearly 3 months on for the Fact Find, it's a complete waste of money and time and is state sponsored cruelty against fathers through the family court system. Upsetting that it's coming up to Father's day and my girls won't be with me.
The only satisfying thing for me is the £70k my wife has wasted on legal fees compared to my £4k. 😉
It's par for the course that this is the standard route all 'aggrieved' women go down with their feminist Solicitors who see them coming a mile off and see the cash signs in their eyes. Nothing like a heady mix of anxiety and cash to get these women to drag things out and cause untold damage to the children.