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Hi all,
A few weeks ago my 3 yr old son went home after spending the night at my house and told him mum that me & my partner were being nasty to each other. This wasn't the case of course, we have a really happy and healthy relationship.
Since then, my sons mum has said that I cannot see my son unless my gf isn't present. Every time I pick him up I have to sign a piece of paper saying he will not see her. She's said that if I do not sign the paper I won't be able to see him unless it's a supervised visit. There's been no court action over this, she's just been to see the CAB and this is what they recommended. I'm very confused and I feel very hurt by all of this because I love my son more than anything & we have a great relationship. I see him 3 times a week and until recently had him overnight every Saturday night.
Me & my partner are good, respectable people & all I want is to my son as much as I possibly can and be a big part of his life growing up. Is what she is doing legal, and if not what are the ways around it? I feel that she's really messing with his routine because of her own feelings & it's really starting to show with him being upset and telling me he misses me lots and just not being himself.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
Hi there,
I honestly can't believe that the CAB would tell her to do this! I suggest she's trying to manipulate you, you should call,her bluff and tell her that you have spoken to the CAB and they would not recommend such action.
If there are problems with contact and issues between parents the accepted first step would be to seek resolution through mediation....and I'm sure this is what the CAB would recommend.
Here's a link to the mediation service www.nfm.org.uk ...... Legal Aid is still available for this this service and you can check eligibility here www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid.
Generally speaking the resident parent cannot dictate to the non resident parent what happens during their contact, and that includes who they see. Obviously is there were safeguarding issues with your gf, if she was a risk to your child that would be a different matter.
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