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I need help farther of 4 all under 10 my wife has some mental health issues left for a 4 month holiday has now returned it has been 3 months and demanding a divorce, she doers not help with any of the finaces including her own food, mortgage and only child care she does is comb the kids hair and the odd bit of landury. She is demandibng a dicorce, I would like to separate but she wont leave the house even though its clear she is unable or unwilling to look after our children what are my options concing the house and residency
You should consider mediation but assuming that it is not fruitful you may wish to consider applying for residency of your children and perhaps an occupation order.
Its difficult to say without knowing more.
Im currently going through something similar however my ex took our children and it has been uphill so far but slowly getting to the end where a decision will be made.
Is there any risk to the children or yourself, have you ever involved the Police?
Hopefully some one more ellequant than I will pitch in.
Regards,
Dave
I know meadiation wont help I would love the split to be amicable but I know she is unwilling to be normal about this. The last thing I want is a court case but I am scared if I do not take any action she might start proceedings which will give her the advantage (I hate having to talk in such ways) . My primary concern is the wellbeing of the children and if she was capable I would happily leave the family home I pay for, but they are not and far better off with me. The police have not been involved yet but she does accuse me all of the of things I have not done. Can I get her to leave the house as the constant abuse she shouts at me (for washing the kids clothes) is not healthy for me or the kids.
In my opinion you need to record dates and times of any abuse and also if possible record it.
If she is being abusive then you should consider reporting this to the Police although she may make things more difficult for you as a result.
If you wish to apply for residency then you should complete a C100 and / or a C1A where relevant. C1A is regards any domestic abuse.
There are stickies on the site to assist you.
Also there will be others with alternative and possibly better advice if you can wait until they come online and see your post.
Regards,
Dave
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