[Solved] Oldest child confused

As in I'd rather have a non direct relationship via calls and talking on roadblox  if she wanted to just so when we meet alone in a year or 2 or more that its not from nothing 

Only you can make that decision..

Based on what you've said, taking a step back and allowing things to progress naturally with your daughter driving contact in a year or two sounds sensible. 

Update been a week since I stopped it. She added me on roblox chatted for abit all she was interested was what am I getting for her birthday and how many then she went off. I spoke on the phone once was awkward and the mum put me on loudspeaker and kept making her laugh. Then I randomly got deleted on roblox.

This is parent alienation and should be reported to the courts. This child is being controlled by her mother in a abusive way. Your child still wants to see you because you are her dad, she will know her mom is wrong, but she won’t know how to deal with it, she is just mirroring her mother and by doing this gets a reaction, probably praise from her mother in some way.  she wants/needs normal parent behaviour from her dad. Never talk about her mom in front of her or let anyone else. I know it’s hard but I think you should keep seeing her, make her feel special, wanted, loved. Have you spoken to her school, pastoral care?

I honestly think she doesn't really care anymore