Hello
I have a situation with my Daughter (3) I will run some background information so you understand the situation as a whole before commenting
Basically I had a child with my ex, we ended on good terms everything was fine until I met someone else (nothing serious) I kept it separate and private from my daughter and her mother.
since the day we split up I have given CSA, gave extra cash for cloths and what ever she wants but since basically moving on the mother become "weird" she cut contact and caused me a lot of trouble amongst other people & my employer (am guessing out of jealously) she refused to deal with me all together and I had to deal with my daughters grandmother, so within a week I had her before a judge, which I gained a parental access order, after few months she wouldn't progress access so I took her back to court but I escalated it to a higher court (which I won again) this time I gained better access but by this point her mothers family obviously had enough of me.
I told them directly that I want my daughter Friday - Sunday every other weekend and access to her school reports & medical information otherwise I have to escalate this again in court. I got what I want straight away so now its happy days I have my daughter as much as I want. yet they make me out to be a bad person because I keep fighting for better access to my daughter (like I told them I wont back down).
the issues am having is am bored of dealing with the grandmother. surely the mother should be grown up and deal with her issues rather than hiding behind someone else especially when its in relation to our daughter. I am reasonable as long as they don't take the p**** with me.
another issue am having is they are constantly trying to get me fired (don't know why) again I think this is jealously because I am a trainee accountant whilst the mother doesn't do anything (I think)
third issue is the biggest, I want to take my daughter on holiday in May 2018, they wont let me I offered to pay for the grandmother to join us and I will cover all costs but got a straight no.
I don't want to threaten a judge on this but curious how other people dealt with them 3 situations above?
I have seen some posts on here and know am lucky to even have what I have so far, but its human nature to want more especially in respect to holidays if I can afford several holidays a year I should be able to include my daughter in them?,
I don't think there's a great deal you can do with respect to dealing with the grandmother rather than your ex - there is an arrangement which works, and although you may not agree with your ex's way of dealing with the matter, I can't see that there's a great deal you can do to change this.
With respect to the holiday, if they won't agree to it, then you have no other choice than to go back to court for a specific issue order for that holiday, and possibly to vary the order to include a certain number of holidays each year if you want to plan ahead.