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SUCCESS STORIES! 5 months 1 day ago #99435

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Essexdaddy has had quite a journey, but he’s reached an arrangement that he’s happy with! You can read his story here...

www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/51031-section-37-help-alienation


Hi all
Well after 3 days trial
I manage with the last grind of my teeth and some amazing people that pull in their pocket at the last moment to have a barrister for 2 days
He save the day I would say
Cafcass and social service completely against me
My ex completely against any contact unless supervised
We did make point that no finding was ever made the nmo was on consent and once again on another hearing no finding made but was treated as perpetrators
In the but shell after so much pain and debate
Just leave the children with the mother
To me it’s not fair given she hasn’t got home, must have 2 support worker to support her, she has still cbt anxiety treatment ongoing (3 years now) and has be showed that she deliberately stop contacts regardless the children misses their father
But like she said
I was advise to do so!
Anyhow
Judge aware me unsupported contact with the children every two weeks and in less than a month I will have them home for the week end Friday to Sunday every fortnight

System suck but this is how it is and given the fact that she got all the social service and people in her pocket believe her lies well I’m happy with that.
My eldest son(previous relationship) live with me full time and I will have the 2 little munchkins week end and Holliday
Soon , soon she will drew herself up and she surround herself with some feminazi and her father that his such a control prick I wonder how she will ever cope but I don’t care
Soon the kids will return home and I believe it’s only a matter of time for the children to ask to live with me like my eldest has done

Now I need to heal, pay my debt and prepare for my divorce as I couldnt Afford yet
She can’t take this from me and she will have to live her life on her own good luck I’m happy ;-)

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SUCCESS STORIES! 4 months 2 weeks ago #99658

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Anther well fought result for thelongroad... well done!

Quick update..i had my final hearing outcome after 2 and a half days, split between the week before last and this week.

Application CAO made in July last year
Ex parte NMO given against me in July/August
contact stopped with son for 7 months due to NMO
NMO discharged after 7 months
Cafcass recommend alternate weekends for me, despite evidence of contact every weekend and one day a week for last 8 years
Child taken on as child in need after Cafcass report
Hair strand tests found to be positive for 2 class A-mother after cafcass report

Anyway to cut a long story, Cafcass recommended a further day on top of alternate weekends, despite positive drug tests, child in need being freshold being met and school reports supporting father. Truly awful

Judge went in my favour awarding live with father and mother reverts to alternate weekends, half holidays shared. Amazing result after so long and battles with everyone especially cafcass and SS..

I will say more further on but keep hope everyone. managed to get a positive outcome despite NMO and negative cafcass reports. You can do it too.

Lots of people on here who supported me so thank you so much, especially Mojo who was always so kind, thoughtful and knowledgeable-thank you.

Holidays

I now have a court order that states for summer holidays they should be shared with mother the first week, and then alternated with me having 6th and final week of summer. However, mother was also granted an exception as she had already booked dates of 15th August until 23rd August. My concern is the 15th is on a Thursday of my 4th week. I am not overly worried but interested what others would do in this situation? Would you take back the days owed as such later in holiday so it remains fair and equal. Also my son breaks up on Tuesday 23rd July which means Mum misses one day. Is that just the way it goes or does this need to be addressed? Any experience of this would be much appreciated.

Thank you

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SUCCESS STORIES! 4 months 2 weeks ago #99719

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To be honest, this is a oneoff exception - I wouldn't argue the point, it's not worth the hassle in my view for a couple of days when you've got everything you could wish for.

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SUCCESS STORIES! 2 weeks 4 days ago #101991

Hi

my son has had 2 years of it
ex had affairs then left
put non molestation on him that cost us £'s to get sorted
everything ok every other weekend then found army man . moved 150 miles away and then cafcass involved , they lied and now no unsupervised contact
costs us £200 a month for a 2 hr contact room [ travel fare inc]
now final hearing and Cafcass having meetings with mum , not us
want to see grand child and dad but messing around with dates
had final hearing but Cafcass now want to question psychologist/ report [ she is number 4 in country in her field
appears cafcass and mum are delaying everything so my son does not see his child
now final hearing next month
cant afford barrister as spent £25,000 already
appears no end to Cafcass and mum stopping my son seeing his child other than a phone skype and video skype once a week [ lasting from 2 mins - 15 minutes on a good day
judge has been good , same one last year but does not appear to over rule Caffcase , seems frightened to do so !!

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SUCCESS STORIES! 2 weeks 4 days ago #101998

hey Dave, have you not seen the video stop the wars on Dad, it is on youtube and you should watch it. This whole system is a money making scam and you are not the first one to lose out on £25k

"Most applications result in an order of some sort, but none of the orders are monitored and few are enforced. Many fail to provide anything that could be considered to provide adequate levels of contact. Many applications are abandoned because fathers run out of money, suffer ill health or the ability to simply carry on. The cost of going to court can range from £10-£50,000 in a process that can take years. Many fathers cannot afford to go to court and spend thousands of pounds on a court order which has a 50% chance of being broken and will not be enforced by a judge. One study found contact decreases over time and breaks down entirely in over 20% of cases within 5 years (Simpson, McCarthy, & Walker, 1995). This has been confirmed by other studies (Bradshaw, Stimson, Skinner, & Williams, 1999) (Peacey & Hunt, 2008)."

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